His best friend told us that he would be moved out by the time we got married.

I’ve talked to my husband about it, and his stance is that his best friend isn’t in the mental state to be on his own and that it also threatens his job security.

It has caused issues in our relationship because he will drop anything and everything to be with his best friend if he so much as lets out a sigh.

I love and appreciate him for always being there for someone he is close to, but I really feel like he is just enabling him and making his dependency issues even worse.

He has allowed his friend to continue living with you, interrupt your activities and make you feel like you don’t come first? You mention that your husband is enabling his codependency, but it’s almost as if your husband is codependent on him as well.

It sounds like this is taking a negative toll on your relationship, and if your husband isn’t motivated by that, you may need to come to a decision on how you want to proceed on your own.

It also allows for a neutral person to act as a mediator and facilitate questions that may prompt insight into how this behavior isn’t the best for the longevity of your marriage, which may be just what your husband needs.