Anne Heche's father raped her, her brother committed suicide and her mom disowned her - Daily Mail

The Heche family, left to right, Nancy, Abigail, Nathan, Donald and Anne Heche.

Anne Heche says her relationship with her mother was strained even before the actress went public about her relationship with Ellen DeGeneres.

In the 1990s, even prior to her sister's fame, Susan Bergman, the eldest of the Heche family, wrote a book about their father's secret life as a homosexual .

She told the Tribune that her father was constantly chasing major business deals that often left the family destitute. .

Heche said in her book that during her 20s, she had romantic affairs with much older men  such as comedian Steve Martin and Fleetwood Mac guitarist Lindsay Buckingham.

In her book, Heche wrote about her thoughts of Martin saying: 'Why couldn't my father have been more like him?'  .

In a 1998 interview, Heche told the Tampa Bay Times: 'We never told the truth in our family - never told the truth about one thing.'.

Speaking about her life in Chicago, Heche said: 'My days were spent in school, my afternoons were spent working at Haagen-Dazs and other places and my evenings were spent holding my mother, who kept crying.'.

Heche told the Advocate in a November 2001 interview saying: 'My father was a schizophrenic.

Heche said in an interview that she had rebuilt her relationship with her sister following a years long absence from each other's lives .

In a 1998 interview with Allure, Heche said her father lived as a strict religious choir leader while cruising gay bars at night. .

In response to Heche's autobiography, her mother, Nancy, said: 'I am trying to find a place for myself in this writing, a place where I as Anne's mother do not feel violated or scandalized.'

Her sister, Susan, said she objected to not being consulted by Heche about her book

Abigail Heche, a jewelry designer, said: 'It is my opinion that my sister Anne truly believes, at this moment, what she has asserted about our father's past behavior ..

Thanks to a role in a 2004 TV movie named 'Gracie's Choice,' where Heche played an abusive alcoholic mother, she told the Los Angeles Times that she came to terms with the idea that her mother didn't love her. 

Heche's mother, Nancy, lectured for years on the 'evils' of homosexuality following her husband's death in 1983

In addition to her mother, Heche said her sister remained distant from her relationship with Ellen was made public

Speaking about how her mother seemingly ignored the abuse she faced from her father, Heche said: 'I always wondered if my mother was conscious - if you can treat children that way and still love them.'

In the same interview, Heche said that her religious mother did not speak to her after the actress came out

In 1998, Heche told the Tampa Bay Times that her mother believed that her lesbian relationship was a 'sin.' 

While Nancy Heche told the Christian Broadcasting Network that she felt her daughter's relationship with Ellen DeGeneres was 'Like a betrayal of an unspoken vow: We will never have anything to do with homosexuals.' 

In a separate interview, Nancy told AL.com in a 2009 that she felt as though she didn't handle her daughter coming out in 1997 well

During the interview, Nancy said that she was an 'advocate' for 'showing love and respect to the gay community.' In the same year as the interview, Nancy was speaking at multiple homophobic conferences across the country

Heche admitted in a 2011 interview with the Daily Telegraph that she had recently begun to rebuild her relationship with her sister following a 20-year feud

In that interview, Heche said that she was still estranged from her mother

Heche said that when she called her mother to confront her once, she hung up after her mother said: 'Jesus loves you, Anne.'