He's taken steps to better understand my life experiences and perspective and has found his own therapist (who is also Asian-American) to help him through different situations.
"My boyfriend never would have thought of that before because he’s never had to factor those concerns into his everyday life, but now it’s something he considers when I have uncomfortable encounters.I’m used to being treated differently by other people (of all races) because of my mixed status, so it didn’t surprise me when people were weird about us dating, but it was very new to my boyfriend.
Funnily enough, most of the judgement we get when we’re in public together is from other people of color.
They often tease him about being with a 'white feminist,' but he seems okay with it.
I sometimes feel like I got into a time machine when we visit his friends and the men are watching TV while women are in the kitchen, but I openly talk about it.
I just want to express (especially to those who might be new to love like I was) that it’s definitely not a blissful utopia, where 'differences don’t matter' – they don’t matter, but they’re there.
As for everyone else, it’s been okay so far, but I think that’s because I was expecting worseMy parents are both Christian pastors, so they’ve been okay for the most part, but I feel like once our wedding is close, or once we have kids, that’s when the trouble will start."
"He’s also had to understand that he and his white friends aren’t automatically in the clear because they’re liberalsOther than that, our families are completely accepting, and people in public treat us well